Your Selfish nature won’t take you far !!

One of the greatest journeys in life is overcoming insecurity and learning to truly not give a damn. A person learns something on every single step he takes in that journey. Not always the lesson he wanted. Usually the one he needed.

And here is the part nobody tells you: the lesson is not the hard bit. What you do with it is.

It’s in his hands whether he accepts the opportunities or discards them…

It’s in his hands how he applies the lessons he learnt into his personal life…

It’s his decision to see the good part or the bad…

He is the master and he has to understand that.

I say this because I have watched people collect experience the way some people collect books. Stacked up, impressive from a distance, never actually opened. They went through the thing. They can tell you the story at a party. But nothing about how they live changed afterwards. The experience happened to them, and then it was filed away.

Life surprises us with so many ups and downs. All this is a part of life. The trouble starts when we begin keeping score.

The quiet arithmetic nobody admits to

Most of us have a ledger running somewhere in the back of our heads. I helped them move house, so they owe me. I stayed up on the phone at 2am, so they had better pick up when I call. I was there. Where were they.

Nobody says any of this out loud. It is too embarrassing. But the ledger is there, and it poisons everything it touches, because the moment you do something kind with a receipt in your hand, it stops being kindness. It becomes an invoice with a smile on it.

Then the payment does not arrive, and you feel cheated. Not because the person wronged you, but because you were quietly billing them for something they never agreed to buy.

Remember to never expect anything in return. Do good and you will get the best of everything - just almost never from the person you did it for, and almost never on your schedule.

Selfish is not always loud

We picture the selfish person as the obvious one. The one who takes the biggest slice, talks over everybody, never offers to pay.

The version that actually holds people back is much quieter. It looks like generosity. It sounds like generosity. It is the friend who helps constantly and resents constantly. It is the person who cannot let a favour go unmentioned. It is help that arrives with strings so thin you cannot see them until you try to walk away.

That kind of selfishness is harder to spot in yourself, because from the inside it feels like being a good person. The only real test I know is simple: would you still do it if nobody ever found out you did?

If the answer is no, that was never kindness. That was marketing.

Where it actually gets you

Keep on doing good work without thinking about the rewards. Be a good human.

Not because the universe runs on some cosmic points system. I have no idea whether it does. But because of what expectation does to you. A person who gives freely walks around light. A person who gives on credit walks around owed, and being owed is exhausting. It makes you small, watchful, permanently slightly disappointed in everyone.

Drop the ledger and you get your energy back. That is the return. It arrives immediately and it is the only one you can count on.

Your KINDNESS will serve you on the Judgement Day, not your SELFISH EXPECTATIONS.

-Kashish