The power is in your hands!!

There comes a point in life where we feel like giving up.

It seems like there is no escape, and we are surrounded by “THE MISERY.”

You lose people you trusted.

You go through an emotional breakdown and a dozen other changes.

You face the harsh reality of LIFE. You quit. You cry. And you feel like a failure.

But one thing stays constant throughout: YOU are the one affected in the end.

No matter how many people come to console you, at last it is YOU who takes a stand for yourself, and that is how life goes on.

Whoever enters your life is destined to. Both good and bad situations happen to make you strong and prepare you for worse. You need to learn from them. It is not easy, I agree, but it is not impossible either.

The smile that costs you

Sometimes what we all do is fake a smile to cover the sadness. It seems easy. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone.

But the fact cannot be ignored that it wears us down and breaks us further.

I understand why we do it. Explaining is expensive. It means finding words for something you have not processed yet, and then managing the other person’s reaction to it, which is often more work than carrying it alone. So the smile is genuinely the cheaper option in the moment.

It is just not cheaper over a year. Every unspoken thing takes up room, and room is finite. People who have been performing fine for a long time do not usually collapse over something big. They collapse over something small, because the small thing was simply the last item that would fit.

The frightening part is going into that darkness - the phase there seems to be no coming back from. Mental stress, pain, crying, heartbreak, loneliness. Those emotions hold on tightly and don’t let go. Even when you want out, you can’t. You feel helpless.

And if you are there right now, please do not do it silently. Tell one person. Not the internet, not everyone - one person. That is not weakness, and it is not a burden on them. It is the thing that shortens it.

About trust

The worst part is often the people you love. They are the ones who know exactly where to strike.

Remember one thing: you are not supposed to keep offering explanations to prove yourself right. If they can question you now, they will accuse you of things in the future too. Where there is no trust, there is no relationship of any kind.

So it is better to have the break early than at a point from which there is no coming back.

I want to be fair here, because I wrote that in a hard year. There is a difference between someone asking a genuine question because they are hurt and confused, and someone who has decided you are guilty and is now collecting evidence. The first deserves an answer. The second cannot be satisfied by one, and you will exhaust yourself trying.

Learning to tell those apart is most of the skill.

Two possibilities

One more thing. After a few years, when you look back over this stretch of your journey, there are two possibilities:

1. You will smile.

2. You will regret.

So the choice is yours. These heartbreaks will not matter in a few years. You were happy before all this, which is proof you can be happy again after it.

All you need to do is choose wisely.

Start with one thing

If the whole situation feels too big to take a stand on, start smaller than you think you should.

One thing you do today that is for you and nobody else. One boundary held. One conversation you have been avoiding, opened.

Power does not come back all at once, and waiting until you feel strong enough is how people stay stuck for years. It returns in fragments, each one earned by a small act that proves the situation is not as fixed as it looks.

One thing. Today. That is genuinely enough to start with.

-Kashish